Ghosting refers to the sudden and unexplained cessation of communication by one party, typically in the context of personal relationships or social interactions, without any warning or apparent reason. The term is commonly used to describe situations where someone abruptly cuts off all contact and ignores attempts to reach out, leaving the other person wondering what happened.
“Ghosting is when they take your feelings out of the equation because it was never about how you felt, it was about how they didn’t want to feel.”
Dodie Clark
English singer, songwriter, author and YouTuber
Ghosting in retirement can occur just as it does in other stages of life. It involves the sudden and unexplained cessation of communication by one party in a relationship, leaving the other person without closure or understanding. Long-term friends or newer acquaintances might suddenly stop responding to calls, messages, or invitations. Family members, sometimes even close relatives, may suddenly cease communication, which can be especially hurtful and confusing.
“Ghosting, like the coward’s way out of a conversation, leaves behind a trail of confusion and unanswered questions.”
Jana Kingsford
Inspiring lifestyle mentor
Romantic partners, whether in long-term relationships or new romances, might suddenly disappear without explanation. With the rise of online dating among retirees, ghosting can occur when a prospective partner suddenly stops all digital communication. Networking: In cases where retirees are involved in professional networking or part-time work, ghosting can occur when contacts or employers stop responding. Ghosting can also happen in volunteer organizations where communication is abruptly cut off by other volunteers or organizers.
“Ghosting is the epitome of disrespect. It shows a complete disregard for someone’s feelings.”
Elle Alexandra
Author, podcast host, and mother
Retirees may feel particularly confused and hurt by ghosting, as they may have more time to dwell on the lack of communication and what it means. Repeated experiences of ghosting can lead to a loss of trust in social or romantic relationships.
Just as with any age group, some people might avoid difficult conversations or conflicts by ghosting. Major life changes, such as moving or health issues, might cause someone to unintentionally ghost others. Loss of interest in the relationship or activity, but without the willingness to communicate this openly.
“Ghosting is a cruel rejection with no explanation. It leaves the person on the receiving end feeling confused and hurt.”
Mindy Kaling
American actress, comedian, screenwriter, and producer
Coping strategies to try; reach out one last time for clarity, but be prepared to move on if there is no response. Invest time and energy into relationships that are reciprocal and positive. Engage in activities that promote well-being and joy, such as hobbies, exercise, or social events. Talk to trusted friends or family members about your feelings. Sometimes, professional counseling can also be helpful.
“Real closure isn’t given by someone else. Real closure is a gift you give yourself.”
Sherry Argov
She is the author of the books Why Men Love Bitches
and Why Men Marry Bitches.
Ghosting is an unfortunate reality that can happen at any stage of life, including retirement. Focusing on self-care and maintaining healthy, reciprocal relationships can help mitigate its impact.
While ghosting is generally considered disrespectful and unkind, it has become a relatively common phenomenon in the age of digital communication. If you’ve experienced ghosting, it can be helpful to focus on self-care and seek support from trusted friends or family. If you need tips on how to handle being ghosted, feel free to ask!
